Has your teenager been getting in trouble at home and school as a result of acting out in anger in rage? There are lots of reasons as to why this occurs; however, the underlying reason for their behavior is because they don’t know how to actively express what is really going on. When a teen does not know how to express their feelings, they will act out inappropriately as a way to let off steam or to get the attention they need. If you’re concerned your teen is going to get hurt or get in serious trouble as a result of their anger, there are some things you can do to help.
Understanding Teenage Anger
First, what parents need to understand is that everyone gets angry, but not everyone knows how to express that. When a teen feels sad, abandoned, hurt, or frustrated, they will either avoid the feelings or react in rage. As a parent, before you just discipline them for acting irrationally, it might be beneficial to first find out why they are acting this way.
Finding More Constructive Ways to Express Anger
As a parent, once you recognize that your teen is acting enraged or angry, you need to step in and show them how to express their feelings without hurting themselves or anyone else. Below are some ideas of what you could do to channel that negative energy elsewhere:
- Creative Expressions – Get your teen a journal or some art materials and show them how to express their anger creatively. When they’re feeling down, encourage them to write it down. Even creating paintings that express their feelings is another outlet.
- Identify with them – Sometimes your teen just needs to know that you’re on their side. Build an open communication with them and allow them to freely express what’s on their mind without judging, blaming, or punishing them. Then try your best to identify with their pain so that you know they understand.
- Provide a cool-off period – Anger is an emotion that should not be bottled up. If you see that your teen is really upset, allow them some time to cool off before you try and figure out what’s going on. Sometimes if they know they have a place to cool off, they will use it to their advantage.
If you’ve tried other avenues with no luck, it may be a good idea to consider professional help. There are expressive therapy sessions for teens that can help them to express their anger and get to the root of the problem. Many teens have been successful in group therapy sessions that allow them to identify with youth their age and learn methods of channeling their anger effectively.